I usually write about infertility and miscarriage from a woman's point of view. But in honor of Father's Day, there's another important piece of the puzzle and that is how your husband and your relationship is fairing through infertility. I recall when my husband and I were going through fertility treatments. I was on so many different fertility drugs and hormone shots that I was pretty much a raving lunatic. What do you expect when you are pumping yourself up with all those chemicals? My husband used to think PMS was bad...
Even after our failed IVF's when we decided just to try naturally, it was a rollercoaster ride every month. It would start around the time of ovulation where intercourse was mandatory (UGGGGHHH) and it would end with the anger and tears when either the pregnancy test was negative or I got my period. I found a good article about preserving your relationship while struggling with infertility:
Keeping It Together During Infertility
Stay the course. Take care of each other. When that test finally comes out positive, you will know that it was all worth it. My husband and I also had to deal with recurrent miscarriage. But, even through it all, I just knew deep down that I would succeed (and that's probably why I did). When all is said and done, the rollercoaster ride won't seem so crazy, it becomes a distant memory. Let the hard times strengthen your relationship. When you celebrate Father's Day for real, your child/children will truly appreciate parents that 'kept it together'.
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